Family Violence

Legal and Constitutional
Legislation Committee
Provisions of the Family Law Amendment
(Shared Parental Responsibility) Bill 2005

3.88 The bill inserts a new definition of 'family violence' into the Act:

family violence means conduct, whether actual or threatened, by a person

towards, or towards the property of, a member of the person’s family that

causes that or any other member of the person’s family reasonably to fear

for, or reasonably to be apprehensive about, his or her personal wellbeing or

safety.62

Based on this definition, I was subjected to family violence for more than two years by Ob and Lob. I was crippled and barely able to move. Ob told first her family and friends, then me, that I was there only out of pity. Because of that brutish perception, which was not based on fact or the agreements -- even in writing -- between Ob and me, I was treated as if I had no right to anything in the house. My use of my own home and possessions was seen as something to be resented.

At one point, Ob and Lob decided that Lob should have my bedroom. Lob and her boyfriend moved my things while I sat and watched, exhausted from swelling in my hip and pain. Lob and her boyfriend jeered and ridiculed me for even asking what they were doing. They did this under the threat of Ob's sons, who were in the backyard having a BBQ.

When Ob first threatened that she had found a way to have me removed from my home, I was struggling with the idea that the rest of my life would be spent in a wheelchair or hospital bed. She meant to abuse the prejudiced Intervention Order process.

I found a number of key capture programs on my computer. Lob's friends were hackers and had planted them. An friend from New Zealand helped me discover their existance, and I had to reload my computer repeatedly to remove them.

When I went into the hospital to have my hip repaired, I related to the volunteers and physicians my concerns that I would find my things had been deposited in the rain while I was gone.

There are over three years of further examples.

Reading something like this makes me wonder if the writers realize the true scope of their words or work.
With all the furor over Family Law and its effects on the children, do any of these people realize that their actions also affect the disabled? or the elderly? or any man who seeks to defend his legal rights in his own home?

Do the authors of these bills realize that their work affects millions of others who are in relationships of other forms than a mother-father-child(ren)?