(I'm gonna do a little cross-post here. Teri is turning into a national and international leader on these issues. She's appeared on national radio in Australia, and MensNewsDaily is one of the most popular forums in the world - PaulD)
Hi Teri,
(Yeah, it’s me, Paul. I got bored reading up on tech stuff and figured I’d come see what your blog was up to. I see you’ve decided to go very commercial. Good job!)
You know, grizzlie, I am so naive I thought we got passed this stuff decades ago. When I ran into the modern gender war, it really surprised me. The prejudice towards men has gotten deeply ingrained into law and politics - not just in America, but around the world.
It’s disgusting.
Everyone plays off the old gender roles. I think mostly because it’s all we know.
No one has figured out how to surrender to their passions and instincts without doing the mating dance game. Strange as it may sound, it makes us all so very primitive and tribal while we act so sophisticated.
And then one side or the other decides they’ve had enough of putting on the pretense, and from the confusion comes misplaced anger and resentment.
What a bad joke we all are.
And I have to admit I’m as hypocritical as anyone. I still enjoy opening doors for women, and the best date is still a long intense conversation over dinner fascinated at a woman’s unique take on things - without any overt mention of sex, it’s intensely erotic.
Yet at the same time I respect responsible women in positions of authority. I even go so far as to expect a woman to be responsible for her actions; not like the childish, self-centered Brittany character in the cartoon. To my mind, Brittany is a woman who’s looking to take advantage of her sex, simply - and not worth treating with any more respect than an errant child.
She doesn’t realize it, but she’s setting herself up to be treated like a thing, not a person. In the popular parlance, she’s objectifying herself.
And you, grizzlie, are just doing the same thing. In fact, you’re reactionary thinking is surrendering control to the Brittany’s of this world. She treats “you” like fecal matter, and you say that’s just the way it is.
Well, it’s not. And that’s the message - to my mind - of Teri’s blog.
I think it’s long past time we told the Brittany’s to grow up; and did a little of the same ourselves.
Brittany has no right to transfer her discomfort and frustrations to the guy who greets her. He, - nor any other man - is in the world to take her abuse just because she’s female.
That cartoon implies that the guy on the floor would approve of Brittany’s reasons. Now, that is crazy. What’s sad is that it’s an attitude that is widely pervasive from individuals to the lawmakers and courts.
Hint: Letting a woman crack your skull is not chivalrous. It’s just plain stupid.
I’m not going to say the guy on the floor should stand up and knock her down because that’s not something I would do. However, it is a common personal choice, I know.
What he should do, in our sophisticated non-discriminating society, is to call the police and have her arrested for assault.
Unfortunately, we all know what would happen there: He’d be laughed at by the police, and everyone around him.
It does sorta put the man in a lose-lose situation, which is intolerable.
It’s intolerable for the simple reason it denies him a sense of self-respect.
The man doesn’t stand up and knock Brittany down. He does what most decent men would do: He simply leaves the picture silently.
Where he may ultimately lose his self-respect is if he were to continue to express any interest in Brittany. Some may call this “Love”, but it’s just enabling abuse.
It is, in the final analysis, his choice though.
The sickest part in this cartoon is not Brittany, or the guy who disappears from the picture, but her friend who condones and supports Brittany. She is enabling abuse, too.
The very human kicker is this: Brittany and the guy may someday date - the abuser and her enabler may form a relationship.
Thing is, Brittany has already introduced violence into the relationship, along with selfishness and abuse.
It’s not hard to see what sort of relationship they’ll have; or the course it will take.
He’ll be obsequious towards her for a while, enduring her abuse as just “Brittany being herself”, and then one day he’ll grow tired of being spit on day after day.
All that rage comes flowing back, and … He goes to jail for assault and abuse.
There’s a kicker here too, in our contemporary social attitude: He doesn’t ever have to do anything. He may never strike her. He may, in time, try to get her to change her actions - to become responsible for her actions.
But she is addicted to abuse. Not only will she not change, but she’ll accuse him of the abuse!
And thanks to the male-bashing in cartoons like the one above, most people will believe her; including the police, social services, and the courts.
He can lose everything along with his self respect to simple prejudice.
But again, he made his own choices, didn’t he?
The empowerment Teri is talking about here is responsibility for one’s actions - otherwise known as the basis for self-respect.
Brittany made her choices, too.
Amor
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(I'm gonna do a little cross-post here. Teri is turning into a national and international leader on these issues. She's appeared on national radio in Australia, and MensNewsDaily is one of the most popular forums in the world - PaulD)
Hi Teri,
(Yeah, it’s me, Paul. I got bored reading up on tech stuff and figured I’d come see what your blog was up to. I see you’ve decided to go very commercial. Good job!)
You know, grizzlie, I am so naive I thought we got passed this stuff decades ago. When I ran into the modern gender war, it really surprised me. The prejudice towards men has gotten deeply ingrained into law and politics - not just in America, but around the world.
It’s disgusting.
Everyone plays off the old gender roles. I think mostly because it’s all we know.
No one has figured out how to surrender to their passions and instincts without doing the mating dance game. Strange as it may sound, it makes us all so very primitive and tribal while we act so sophisticated.
And then one side or the other decides they’ve had enough of putting on the pretense, and from the confusion comes misplaced anger and resentment.
What a bad joke we all are.
And I have to admit I’m as hypocritical as anyone. I still enjoy opening doors for women, and the best date is still a long intense conversation over dinner fascinated at a woman’s unique take on things - without any overt mention of sex, it’s intensely erotic.
Yet at the same time I respect responsible women in positions of authority. I even go so far as to expect a woman to be responsible for her actions; not like the childish, self-centered Brittany character in the cartoon. To my mind, Brittany is a woman who’s looking to take advantage of her sex, simply - and not worth treating with any more respect than an errant child.
She doesn’t realize it, but she’s setting herself up to be treated like a thing, not a person. In the popular parlance, she’s objectifying herself.
And you, grizzlie, are just doing the same thing. In fact, you’re reactionary thinking is surrendering control to the Brittany’s of this world. She treats “you” like fecal matter, and you say that’s just the way it is.
Well, it’s not. And that’s the message - to my mind - of Teri’s blog.
I think it’s long past time we told the Brittany’s to grow up; and did a little of the same ourselves.
Brittany has no right to transfer her discomfort and frustrations to the guy who greets her. He, - nor any other man - is in the world to take her abuse just because she’s female.
That cartoon implies that the guy on the floor would approve of Brittany’s reasons. Now, that is crazy. What’s sad is that it’s an attitude that is widely pervasive from individuals to the lawmakers and courts.
Hint: Letting a woman crack your skull is not chivalrous. It’s just plain stupid.
I’m not going to say the guy on the floor should stand up and knock her down because that’s not something I would do. However, it is a common personal choice, I know.
What he should do, in our sophisticated non-discriminating society, is to call the police and have her arrested for assault.
Unfortunately, we all know what would happen there: He’d be laughed at by the police, and everyone around him.
It does sorta put the man in a lose-lose situation, which is intolerable.
It’s intolerable for the simple reason it denies him a sense of self-respect.
The man doesn’t stand up and knock Brittany down. He does what most decent men would do: He simply leaves the picture silently.
Where he may ultimately lose his self-respect is if he were to continue to express any interest in Brittany. Some may call this “Love”, but it’s just enabling abuse.
It is, in the final analysis, his choice though.
The sickest part in this cartoon is not Brittany, or the guy who disappears from the picture, but her friend who condones and supports Brittany. She is enabling abuse, too.
The very human kicker is this: Brittany and the guy may someday date - the abuser and her enabler may form a relationship.
Thing is, Brittany has already introduced violence into the relationship, along with selfishness and abuse.
It’s not hard to see what sort of relationship they’ll have; or the course it will take.
He’ll be obsequious towards her for a while, enduring her abuse as just “Brittany being herself”, and then one day he’ll grow tired of being spit on day after day.
All that rage comes flowing back, and … He goes to jail for assault and abuse.
There’s a kicker here too, in our contemporary social attitude: He doesn’t ever have to do anything. He may never strike her. He may, in time, try to get her to change her actions - to become responsible for her actions.
But she is addicted to abuse. Not only will she not change, but she’ll accuse him of the abuse!
And thanks to the male-bashing in cartoons like the one above, most people will believe her; including the police, social services, and the courts.
He can lose everything along with his self respect to simple prejudice.
But again, he made his own choices, didn’t he?
The empowerment Teri is talking about here is responsibility for one’s actions - otherwise known as the basis for self-respect.
Brittany made her choices, too.
Amor